Tuesday, March 15, 2011

Flame-FULL Confession

I wondered if I should even post this confession. I wonder if it will make me come off like a super-bitch? I wonder if people will judge my desire to have a family? I'm going to put it all out there. After all, this is my blog and a place where I can state my feelings.

I don't LOVE all children.

OK there. I said it. It's the truth. I don't and I never have. There are even children I don't like. Whew...

I do, however, love and cherish all the children and babies in my life. Let me just get that out there with emphasis! I'm sure anyone who reads this blog knows that part already though.

I should also say that I do enjoy children that are nice, polite and well behaved. I think the bratty ones have ruined me though for the "I desperately love all children" thing...

I have felt this way as long as I can remember. It mostly has to do with the way children act in public. Don't get me wrong, I understand that all kids have melt-downs and parents can't control that. That's not what bothers me. I'm talking about rude, self-centered kids. The ones that act like they are entitled to whatever they want and based on kids I see... this is a growing majority. I noticed it a lot in college when I was a server in a restaurant and continue to notice it in places I frequent.

MrHoppy and I couldn't believe the way some children acted while we were at Disney World in November. Temper tantrums, screaming at their parents, whining, begging for more, more, more. What more could you want kid? Your parents probably just dropped over $2,000 on this trip for you! I was a child once, a child at Disney even. And this kind of behavior was NOT acceptable in our family. When did this shift of power occur? When did parents begin to lose control of their children? Again, I'm not talking about children that are having a bad day. Hell, we all have bad days! You know the ones I'm talking about...

Don't get me wrong, there were adorable and sweet children there. I loved watching them experience Disney with their parents. The smiles and glee when they met Cinderella or Mickey. It melted my heart honestly! It did amaze me though the difference in the 2 "types" of children. Very different attitudes...

Does is come down to parenting? Are kids just different these days? Is this behavior now more socially acceptable? Are feelings of entitlement coming from parents that feel entitled? I do feel that society as a whole is less and less courteous. Are future generations learning this behavior by watching the way adults act? It makes me wonder.

So there you have it. Is there anyone out there that feels the same way? Am I the only one? I just feel like adults should be respected by children. They should say please, thank you, and excuse me when they bump into someone. Common courtesy...


  1. Oh don't get me started! I teach 7th grade and they are sooo rude. I won't do anything for them unless they say please and thank you. I think the vast majority of it comes down to parenting. Kids walk all over parents. I will be at parent/teacher conferences and I am the one telling the kid not to talk to their parents like that!! IMO, parents want too much to be friends with their kids. I keep thinking the pendulum has to swing the other way soon....right??

  2. I feel you on this! I am always stunned to see how kids act in public while their parents either ignore it or enable it.

  3. whew, I'm glad I'm not the only one that has noticed this!